A problem for the busy professional is the ability to work through the “noise” of everything demanding your time. No matter how much you plan, work on productivity or “work smarter”, not harder, the surf keeps pounding, and you’re wondering whether what you do counts.
The problem is not that people are (not) good at what they do. It is that they don’t feel they own enough of themselves to make things happen that they believe are important. The outside forces work on them, demand them, and ask of them for many things. The more capable, and better result driven person you are, the more likely that others will come to see you as someone they need assistance from.
It’s good that your good at something, and that people believe in you. If you’re a leader, it makes it even more critical that the subtle forces of everything else don’t drown out the following things:
- Your ability to think about what you are doing.
- Your ability to institute changes and developments that prove helpful to yourself and others.
- The ability to tap into your desire to be effective, and do what is needed.
The solution is not a cookbook. It is about having the resolve to realign what you already know is important, in a more centered way of your life. Remember, you are the solution, but looking at external resources may be important to address the demands, and ensure you are able to institute what you need to maintain good balance.
- Say no to certain things.
- Stay connected with what gets shoved underneath the rug.
- Decide the importance of things.
- Change the impact of certain demands, reassign others, schedule the important.
- Get to the key root causes of the problem. Look for ways you have addressed these issues in the past.
Only you can change you. A lot of fine things and people can push how and what you do. It’s never too late to re-evaluate and make course corrections. Chances are, you may need to do this on a regular basis, to ensure you are staying true to your mission.
Bad things can happen, and difficulties and challenges occur…resilient people have an uncanny ability to move through the challenges, and others believe reaction is the best way to proceed.
Resilient people (and leaders):
1. Evaluate situations and manifest possibilities.
2. See the glass half full rather than half empty.
3. Look at the total picture, rather than the immediate issue.
4. Derive strength from available support systems.
Resilient leaders are not excuse makers. They understand that there will be difficulties and use experience and clear understanding to work through challenges. They weather the storm, but they also have thought ahead enough to know that immediate reactions are not the most expedient way to resolve problems. They draw upon available supports, look beyond the barrier, and spend less time getting into emotional reactions, and more time working toward a solution that will move forward.
Consider: Have you ever experienced the energy of a resilient person? What does this feel and look like?
- The person smiles
- They don’t minimize issues, but they don’t let themselves go to lower levels of emotions – such as reactive behavior, blaming or vendettas.
- They allow people with negative energy to move beyond them, or they go around them.
- They like who they are, believe in themselves and others around them – they are loyal.
If you’ve ever been around one of these people, their energy and mannerisms can be contagious – if you allow it. Resiliency is the opposite of stress. Many people subject themselves to stressful reaction, rather than resilient response. The problems are still there, but the capacity to deal with issues is greater because there is a bigger reservoir of resources, ideas. Stress kills the capacity to think and respond. Personalizing the issue kills the ability to be response-able to generate a path forward.
One final consideration…
Examine your problem or stress areas. How do you respond? How well do you generate a way forward when consumed with reaction?